Memorial Saturday Notes

 I took notes yesterday at the Memorial because I thought it would be good to make an article and learn more about her.

Here's what I came up with:

Eulogy for Mariko Mari Okumoto

Would you be able to tell someone to their face that they were going to die if you had that insight? Mariko was not a doctor, but she did have a gift. The amount of stress that caused her while having the job of nursing people, preferably to health, is almost unimaginable. Later doctors would assume that her insight was part of her psychosis.

But what if she was right? Who can say what part of a diagnosis is actually covering up people’s natural abilities? Maybe she had psychotic symptoms, but isn't it just as crazy to assume that Mariko did not have a gift?

Mariko Okumoto was born in 1962 in Los Angeles and spent her early years in Gardena, where she attended Gardena High School. Her career began at a Japanese company where she meticulously assembled Pentel pens, showcasing her attention to detail and dedication. An opportunity took her to Osaka for a year, after which she returned and enrolled in Gardena Community Adult School to pursue nursing. Mariko worked at a community hospital and a convalescent home, where her fluency in Japanese was invaluable as she translated for Japanese patients, ensuring they received the care and understanding they needed.

In the mid to late 70s, Mariko joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, finding a community that supported her through life's challenges. In 1981, Mariko's life took a difficult turn when she was diagnosed with schizophrenia, leading to five years of profound struggle. She lived with her parents, who kept a careful eye on her to prevent self-harm. By 1986, she began her path to recovery, supported by the Coastal Asian Pacific Islander Health Center, where she found strength in a community of Asian doctors and therapists. This support encouraged open conversations about mental health issues within the Asian community, a significant step in breaking down cultural stigmas.

In 2000, Mariko joined Project Return, a nonprofit organization where peers shared their journeys with mental illness. Here, Mari developed leadership skills and gained self-esteem, becoming a valuable advocate for mental health. Her work included volunteering for South Bay Contact, sharing her story as a speaker, and acting as a translator for mental health facilities in Japan.

Mariko's dedication to her recovery and advocacy work led her to reconnect with the LDS Church, where she was recognized for her volunteer efforts. She realized her dream of living independently in a one-bedroom apartment in Marine and Normandy, which she cherished deeply. In 2019, she retired due to declining health, exacerbated by the isolation brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020. Despite these challenges, Mariko remained resilient until her passing in May 2023.

Throughout her life, Mariko demonstrated incredible strength, facing daunting odds and achieving remarkable milestones. She was a beacon of light for many, always smiling and laughing, and she never gave up. Her legacy as a peer advocate and a champion for mental health will continue to inspire those who knew her.

Personal Reflections

Mariko was not only a dedicated professional but also a beloved cousin and friend. Her presence was felt in the Asian Pacific Islander community, where she was known as a small lady with a big heart. She was a good daughter, walking her mother every day with patience and strength. Mariko's involvement with Project Return was a testament to her commitment to helping others, always encouraging participation and leading by example.

One memorable aspect of Mariko's personality was her sense of humor and her ability to bring joy to those around her. Whether it was dancing at Alpine Village or organizing elaborate picnics, she wanted to eat steak and all the fixings, and Mariko knew how to make every event special. She had a humble and modest fashion sense, often returning to her old clothes for comfort, even after splurging on new outfits for trips to Japan.

Mariko's friendship was a treasure to many, including her sister Aki and her friend Glenn. They shared countless moments, from attending musicals and shows to enjoying hotdogs and ice cream at the pier. Mariko's consistency and persistence as a peer advocate were matched by her unwavering support for her friends and family.

As we reflect on Mariko's life, we are reminded of her remarkable achievements and the positive impact she had on those around her. Her legacy of strength, resilience, and humor will live on in our hearts. Thank you, Aki, for taking care of your big sister and ensuring her legacy continues.

May we all find comfort in the stories of Mariko's life and the love she shared with us. Rest in peace, Mariko Mari Okumoto. Your light will continue to shine brightly in our memories.

 

Thank you to all the people at the memorial that contributed to this article, shared the meal and flowers at the church, and provided everyone, including Mariko with the love that she deserved. Apologies in advance if I have any of these details interpreted wrong.